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Sunday 21 April 2013

Dear LIB readers: Should I keep waiting for my husband or re-marry?

From a LIB reader
I got married in 2006. A year later in 2007, my husband relocated to the US. The plan was for him to settle there and then bring me and our only son to join him. It's been six long years and he has been giving us excuses upon excuses. He confessed that he married a white woman there but only to get his papers but I later found out he was living with this woman. When I called him a few months ago I heard a child crying at the background, so I'm suspecting they also have a child together though he says the child is the lady's child and not his. I don't believe him.
I have no way of finding out the truth because I have no one in the US to help me investigate. He has only returned home once since he traveled and this was in 2010. I feel like I'm wasting my life waiting for him especially now that I met someone else who wants to marry me. I'm not divorced from my husband so marrying another man would be illegal. When I suggested divorce to my husband he flipped and told me to give him more time that he will come home as soon as he's stable there. I'm tired of waiting. I need a man in my life. Can I remarry because I think my husband is also married.

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Anonymous said...

come you dey mad....man tie you with marriage...that guy is married to another woman...tomorrow morning monday 22nd...sharply file for divorce b4 time go...u wan old without sex...na wa for ur matter ooo..infact ur matter tire me self...linda post my comment ooo...

Anonymous said...

Asin ehh...myopic fucktards(sowie 4 d swear)...na wa ooo,d woman wnt anythn jst sit dr nd b prayin nd wl evn miss d persn dat God sent 2 help her...DO UR BEST ND LV D REST 2 GoD

Anonymous said...

My dear ooo no b small thing oo..I bliv God works wonders buh come on u jst dnt sit dr nd xpct him 2 cm dwn frm heaven nd do d wonders...my dear sis go 2 d embassy buh b4 u do tell ur husband..he eida cms bk home or he tls u 2 go on wt d divorce proceedings..he cnt eat his cake nd have it..linda abeg biko post my comment

Anonymous said...

It's actually true. Yoruba geh would have married after d 1st year.

Anonymous said...

Legally, u don't need 2 do much 2 get a divorce. Just prove dat u'v not been 2geda 4 3years. Dat shows d marriage has irretrievably broken down. A good ground 4 divorce without stress!

Anonymous said...

How can she send it tonyou na. No email adress. Plus this one wey you be anonymous, you sure say you nor be killer or burglar?

Jason

Unknown said...

Der is no difference between u nd a baby mama. Sweetheart get married nd av a happy family. Also be prayerful nd mke sure whoeva married u,marries ur son too.

Anonymous said...

Please state the site and help this lady if you can.

Jason

Anonymous said...

o christians now allow their husbands go to jand and marry other women for documents. fake ass christians mr or mrs anon. pray ni pray ko. mschweee fake christian!

Anonymous said...

truly very very stupid woman.

Chidozie Mario said...

Your marriage was probably built on deceit right from the beginning and deceit is a ground for divorce. You don't have much choice.
The Anatomy Of Love

Anonymous said...

Give me his name and city he lives in and I will get you the details.

AfroBizNews.Blogspot.com said...

My dear, the fact that ur husband was able to visit home in 2010 meant that he, at least, has a green card, and therefore is able to travel as often as he wishes. It is apparent he has moved on. Pls do too. U are surely wasting your time with him. There will be no regrets, only if you do not make a move.... and the sooner the better.

Anonymous said...

why you bring your case come Linda? this people here does not really care , all they wanna do is type something out of their boredom life, take your case to God or to your family, I think they can give you a better advice and lets I forget hope you never begin fuck this so called new guy? if you are then you are unfaithful too, nah Dog meet Dog

Anonymous said...

If he's married to the white woman, then you guys are not married, because I'm sure he'll be required to produce divorce papers before marrying the white woman. US immigration does not play with stuff like that, they investigate people well nowadays.

Ada Nnewi said...

Nigerians are wicked sha!!! anyways its the dumb white women that fall for the dishonest bunch of pathetic Nigerian men that use them for papers i pity.. Can you all listen to yourselves, you are all supporting your men to attempt to ruin other women's lives and you expect to find happiness.. NDI ALUU!!! All of you that allow your men to travel abroad and deceive other women just to get papers may your men keep you waiting forever...MSCCHHHEEEWWW! Women are their own biggest problems... Aunty RUTH just wait another 30 years!! NONSENSE!

Anonymous said...

U ar married yes but please before u file for divorce be sure that he is married to anoda woman or he is in gail cos u never can tell wat went wrong until u are sure and please u are the best mentor of ursef seek the face of God and he will show up in ur case. And don't forget ur marriage vows put it to God

Anonymous said...

Sybilla who lives in uk with her hubby in America you re not Yoruba u re Benin and you are half caste!! Rotimi Otunba is married with kids in America but I claimed u were British why couldn't u help him with papers? Liar liar Laila you n ur son better go back to Benin jand is just suffer head for you o u v been on this thing for too long Femi is suffering not having a father u better remarry cos all this sleeping around with ur little boy watching is not good!! Single mothers need sex so I don't blame you just saying cos ur case is all over uk with d amout of men u sleep with

YKiluminating on Yahoo plu$ plu$ said...

believe me he still loves you, he his living with that woman to make you and your son happy later.... am sure once he gets what he wants from the woman and correct papers he will run back to your waiting arms....

MYTURN said...

where does he live am traveling to the US today.Move on.

Anonymous said...

na wa....people have problems in this life sha.

Anonymous said...

A lot has been said but I would advise that you get your acts together and call up the guy seriously one day, let him know you have successfully secured a VISA with your son with the help of family or your place of work. Tell him, you are ready to come over as you have a 6month VISa so he should give you details of how to reach him when you get there. See his reaction to that>>> that should tell you what the next step is.

Eva said...

I know 2 people who went thru dis same kinda thing, one is my aunt, her 'husband' never came back, her only son is going to clock 18 dis year and she has moved on with her life, tho she never remarried anyone... the other lady had 2 kids for her hubby who came back at least 3 times in between the over 14yrs he has spent there... the woman is still waiting, Only God knows whether he will come back to stay permanently or not... Listen lady, what U will do depends solely on U... its up to U to do what U want... we all can give U all d advice in the world but it all boils down to what U want, IF ur heart aint in d marriage anymore, or if U still wanna wait, its all up to U...Make ur choice and do only what U want... I wish U luck with ur life... BE STRONG

EJ said...

if i had my way i will advice u 2 leave d BIG FOOL. But i want u 2talk 2 God, if u are a CHRISTIAN, SEE UR PASTOR, GO 4 DIVINE COUNSELLING.

Anonymous said...

Any marriage beyond 2yaers without seen each other is null and void...

Anonymous said...

plz my dear stop wasting your time and get remarried cuz if he truly loves u he wuld have taken to guyz along move on wif your life and dont wait for cuz the more u wait for him the more u run out time nd age

Doot said...

Time waits for no one at ALL! If u are serious u no the answer to this nonsense thoughts of urs

BLOGLORD (MVBM) said...

chai! one chance!

Anonymous said...

K brown , I'm totally blown by ur description of God! May God provoke HIMSELF as D ONE WHO FIXES everytn in ur life. God bless u. U jst lifted my spirit. Pla note dt ds is by d writer of d story. Jst a regular on Linda's blog

Anonymous said...

my dear, please do not wait for the guy. hes only tying you down maybe because he knows your very good, cos dats wat most guys do. please move on with your life. u cnt keep waiting again. I should even commend you for waiting that long for a guy u must really like him. Iyun John Redeemer's University.

Anonymous said...

Oga did you just say you schooled abroad? With all these typographical errors i seriously doubt it. Or was it catering school you attended?

Anonymous said...

Nice one Toluwashe

orange said...

Post his information on Linda's blog. Guys will help you locate him except he changed hs name. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

Ma dear,its a free world,cinz hes also married to anoda woman then i guess ur also free to remarry if u've found some1 else dat actually values u....guess u've tired.

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

give me his address I live in d us I can investigate for u

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