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Saturday, January 19, 2013

"My first introduction to sex was rape' - Foluke Daramola reveals

Actress Foluke Daramola told Punch:
My first introduction to sex was rape. It was with one of our tenants. I got so close to him and saw him as an elder brother. He looked at me as someone that had been exposed because I was busty and he thought I had had a sexual experience before. So he had his way with me. Then it was not something you tell the whole world. Then they tried to make trouble with him but subsequently people said we should keep quiet about it. We had to try and manage it in our own way even though it affected me for a long time psychologically. I had to gradually get over it. I believed so much in the principle of keeping your virginity till you are married. I started showbiz from Teen TV on DBN with Chichi Okaro. Then I used to be so vocal and when we spoke about pre-marital sex and virginity, I was always so passionate about it. It was such a disadvantage and a pity for me.

187 comments:

Anonymous said...

Must you say it? Somethings are better not said.

naijapose.com said...

Ehyah. Thank God you've moved on babe. You are doing good for yourself.

miss deczy said...

Hmmmm.. N u r tellin us dis bcos?

Anonymous said...

Oh well..there were female tenants in da house o but na male tenants u choose to be friend wiv..elder brother my foot..abeg..shift..rape my foot..

Michelle said...

Rape is a terrible thing that you can't wish for anyone. I've never experienced it but I can imagine the trauma the victims go through. Its especially sad when the victim has never even had sex before. She shouldn't let it affect her too much. Dear Foluke, just ray that God gives you the strength to put it behind you.

GISTville

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

How revealing... How sad how most girls share her same story

House of zinno said...

Heya, so sad....wish you could buy it back.

Anonymous said...

Xowie oooo....

Anonymous said...

Beautiful as Eva

Anonymous said...

So sad dt som men ar beast nd always on heat 2 tak away a woman‘s dignity

Anonymous said...

Weytin com concern us?...abegy..linlin u knw get beta gist abi?..*moju*..

Anonymous said...

Sorry dear,God ll reward him abundantly.

NaijaHazard said...

Anon 11:43 is what is wrong with this country. Right there! She should not say it because of what? It is a way of speaking out. So many boys and girls are abused by uncles and aunties and because we like to shut up on everything due to shame of God knows what...we get a generation of abused and dejected people. What shame is she covering by not speaking out? Free yourself from this nonsense mentality biko.

Anonymous said...

Sorry dear,God ll reward him abundantly.

NAUGHTY CONFESSIONS OF NUBIAN KID said...

sorry o,now i understand why your life turned out this way but really shouldn't that be a catalyst for you to campaign for women's rights instead of snatching other people's husbands?#justsaying

Teezers Lover said...

U must be a RAPIST.....its because of d silence rape goes on for so Long!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Too many bigots on this site, always looking for who to criticize! She has done a brave thing by speaking up and some holier than thous are bashing her! So many sad people... Welldone Foluke, speaking up is a 1st step to healing

THE MAN said...

WHAT DO GIRLS THINK? ANY MAN WHO IS NOT UR BROTHER SHOULD BE KEPT AT ARMS LENGTH, THE MOMENT U GET TO CLOSE FOR COMFORT, DON'T BLAME HIM FOR WHAT U WLD GET.

SOMETIMES THOSE GUYS WLD BUY THINGS FOR U N U WLD COLLECT,UT BRO MY FOOT. JUST KNOW THAT IN EVERY MAN'S MIND HE IS SEEKING WHO TO DEVOUR.

Anonymous said...

Gbam! True talk michelle

Anonymous said...

Y must it be left unsaid? Its people like you that one mad man somewhere will rape her kid and keep quiet cos of "shame". Plz stop this ur bush mentality.

Anonymous said...

You sound daft and ignorant.

Anonymous said...

na lie jor

Morenike said...

But sha Linda, you have a lot of retarded pple on this blog o. Hiding behind annonymous identities to chat a whole lot of rubbish.

Anonymous said...

Some peeps Comment foolishly on this blog, if you don't know what to say pls shut d gutter you call a mouth up. Why shouldn't she say It? A lot of people have suffered and are still surffering from d same fate, and they are Shy or scared of saying it. Its not compulsary you Comment if you don't have anything positive to say, shut d fuck up pls

Anonymous said...

Typical nigerian idiot!

Anonymous said...

Is so sad!!I knw she is passing a lot of psychologocal trauma all dis while!!bt thank heavens u got over it!!kings

Anonymous said...

U are a big fool! Insensitive prick!!!

Anonymous said...

Nigerians!this is why many rape victims never share their experience because callous he-goats and some arrogant she-goats would castigate them rather than show pity,love and understanding.If u read this story from your international celebs u would have shown mercy right?I have a friend who was abused by her uncle as a child,she kept reporting to her mum who kept flogging her with orange sticks till he was caught in the act and sent away.For me,there is no reason why any man should rape a little girl.Anyone who supports this act is a rapist lying in wait 4 his victim.

Anonymous said...

Sad story...there's no reason 2 tell us now..every1 wants to b oprah these days..

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Eiyaa sorryoo!

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

Anonymous said...

Pls miss foluke daramola how does dis concern us ooooo........#beti

Anonymous said...

Why? So animals like you can keep raping kids without being called out?

Anonymous said...

Hahaha! Nor mind am, all dem teenagers that like to put 'Brother' in trouble...........T.

Jayden O said...

But why do Nigerians like covering up bad things. We have this culture of just sweeping things under the carpet and that way the rapist will never be convicted. I thank God that the experience did not destroy ur life my dear.

Anonymous said...

I wonder why some People thinks frm there anus , you ask why she is saying dis now, maybe becos you don't knw what it is to be raped ,or maybe becos you don't knw d psychological inpart associated with rape, just pray for you not to be a victim ,or someone close to you ,foluke kudos girl for it takes a woman to share her experience 'may god give you d strenght to carry on '

Anonymous said...

Thank you jare. U said it all

Anonymous said...

Well said

Anonymous said...

Well, its gud u speak out,nw u'r relif

Anonymous said...

@anon 11.47,u'r a sick beast for wat u said!!oh coz she was close to a guy dat she took as a broda sef n ddint mke frends wif d female tenants dat def makes d rape her fault,yeah?any lady dt gets close to u,u'd rape?!bastard!vile animal!!dyu av any idea wt it means to be raped?!
God forgive me

MSA said...

Foluke sorry. You must have put up with a lot psychologically. God bless your heart for dealing with it. Ignore the people on this blog who are asking why you should talk about it. I commend you a lot. I was sexually abused too in my childhood. I have dealt with it and I am still dealing. Congrats to you for saying it. Big hug. Love you.

Alvin Olufisayo said...

Rape is becoming a menace perpetrated by some sick low self esteemed monsters in the country!Sharing her experience with the public helps emotionally,hope young curious and credulous gals wil take a cue 4rm foluke's story.

Anonymous said...

U are very silly... I'm sure ur kids will be worse... Who are u to judge

Anonymous said...

That person dat said rape ni rape ko is a biG foooool!Idiot a neigbour did d same Tin 2ma 3yr old Friend wen we wia llil soo shut d Fuck Up Iff u don't know anitin about Rape !Idiot!funkee dats liFeee u just move on!

Anonymous said...

Saying it out isn't the solution, ensuring that they get punished is. It would have bn better if she adviced victims not to b quiet about it but report to the appropriate authority.

Anonymous said...

And people wonder why little girls fail virginity tests in school

Anonymous said...

R u a rapist?!!!!

Anonymous said...

Abi o! It happened in d past then leave it that way.ok now we all know wat exactly do we do? Sympathize with u?

Ade said...

Some of the comments on here are so sad. And I'm surprised they were even approved. The issue of rape is way too sensitive to allow dumb comments.

Anonymous said...

some LIBers are so shallow, its irritating. Wat do u mean by she should not say it? If u dont have anything positive to say wont u shut up?

Anonymous said...

gal u trY.... Happy 4 u

Anonymous said...

Sorry dear let go of it,may God punish such evil soul, move on my dear u too much

Anonymous said...

Many insensitive,heartless beings.sm of y'al r so unbelievable.y pass evil comments,wt if u were in ha shoes.b reasonable

Anonymous said...

Am very sorry for her,I wish she publicly called out the name of the rapist.
India and South Africa are well known rape countries but the truth is Nigeria is just the same.

Anonymous said...

I feel ur pain dearie because iv been through it. I just hope that like you I find the courage to tell my story without hiding under anonymous shadow. I was introduced to it as a teenager by criminals whom till today I can't identify. I guess I assumed another identity, cos that girl died den. And I still look for her till date.

Darren Robbert said...

Linda,i'm starting to think u really dunno how famous ur blog is and also ur readers Base cos i'm starting to wonder if u actually go thru some comments b4 u post them.All u just do is approve em all and let ppl read as long as they increase the numbers of comments u have on ur blog,u feel accomplished by that buh its wrong! Nigeria is full of bitter ppl some of who dont av hope for themselves and the only think they can do is to sit infront of computers,press there fones etc just to vent there anger and frustration on other people.I read the comment of the same "NUBIA KID OR WHATEVER" on this Foluke's topic again and i remember he/she or who knows maybe "it" was the same human/thing that commented on Arinze's family picture negavetively and yet u approve another comments from the same entity on this issue again(Well,like i said as long as it gets ur blog bubbling and fill with comments to show that people r really reading your blog).Unless any of these retarded "monkeys" as the white wld call them come with a proof to show me they know Foluke personally,then how can they tell the world she snatched someone's husband?If you continue to allow some "jiggaboos" to flood ur blog,trust me a lot of ppl will find it hard to open up on issues like this cos of the negative bashing and thats not going to help a lot of folks out there who needs help not financially but just advise which ur blog can get for them thru the help of the reasonable few out there.

Chidinma said...

NAUGHTY CONFESSIONS OF NUBIAN KID,
WHY ARE U ALWAYS RUDE?I CAN IMAGINE WHO YOU ARE AS A PERSON.PLS ALWAYS SEE SOME GOOD IN INDIVIDUALS BEFORE JUDGING THEM.

Anonymous said...

Ur comment shows how foolish ‎​Ʊ are.

Lisa said...

You have started again this Nubian kid, that's how u said segun arinze was ugly you are here again being spiteful,

Anonymous said...

linda please confirm the attack on the Emir of kanu , heard boko haram attacked him dis morning

Saythetruth said...

Some people are idiots. Someone went through rape. Do you know how difficult it is to open up about it? And you come here and type rubbish blaming the person and criticizing the person for opening up. Sick people. So you would support the persons who cannot control themselves and feel it is their right to hurt others to get their satisfaction. Oya blame the people that get robbed now. Idiot

Anonymous said...

She needs to see a psychotherapist otherwise it will continue to affect her and ruin her second marriage. Most women have been raped worldwide in their lifetime. She should have placed a curse on him.

Anonymous said...

I think she's vry courageous to come out and talk abt her horrible experience.Y'all supporting rape r vry stupid,shame on u! Rape is a terrible thing for d victim incase u don't knw. I was molested/raped when I was only 7yrs old.u dnt get ova something lyk dat ever. . Guys dat prey on innocent little girls shld hav their members cut off for perpetrating such wicked n evil acts.

Anonymous said...

Quite unfortunate, but you only gave us a tip of the iceberg. Tell us about subsequent ones.

Adebayo Omotayo said...

but u enjoy it so make u dey tax dis guy 4 making u a woman what & what do u put on

Anonymous said...

A secondary school boy forced me to give him a BJ at knifepoint when I was 8, he also forced me to swallow it, this is the 1st time I am saying this in abt 25 yrs.I never told a soul bcos of the stigma and threat to my life if I said a word, this is a boy I had never met b4 but forced me into a deserted house just close to my house when sent on an errand , I was really traumatized,this can happen to anyone!SAY SOMETHING AGAINST RAPE TODAY!!

city life said...

Naija people sha!!! It's not for you to syphathize with her silly,it's for someone else who is probably being raped every time,has been raped etc that has been scarred by this to be able to voice it out n stop it or get healing just by talking about it....punk like you would rather everything be hidden...

city life said...

You guys are so annoying...do you think it's easy to come out and say you we're raped,let alone that was your 1st experience,people get scarred for life with such experiences,she clearly has been carrying it for 30+ years and being open about it is healing,it would lift off whatever burden off her shoulder. Punishment? Really? They don't get punished cos rape isn't taken as a serious offense if it was d guilty wouldn't get just 2yrs n if I get caught eating gala I get 5yrs,so there you go. That mums that thinks its for sympathy beta be thankful it's not ur sis or girlfriend. Ode!

Anonymous said...

Like I always say, if you raise up nigeria carpet. The things one will see sha

Greenmomma

Anonymous said...

I am always amazed why people rape girls when there are olshos, prostitute everywhere. The most annoying are paedophiles, they should be castrated. Can't even sleep with ma woman when she genuinely doesn't want it cos there won't be a pleasurable response. My advice for rapist, if you have high sex drive go for commercial sex workers. You would get more than enough. JP

Kass Babs said...

Well, am not surprised *yawns* heavy load

Anonymous said...

Thanks MSA.Same tin happened 2 ma friends mum dat led her 2 give birth 2 ma friends elder sista.It affected her so much dat my friend need 2 take it  4rm d@.Even ma friend sista is married nw but mY friend still av it d@ weneva we go 4 lesson durin sec.school den,she's always with knife until wen we ask nd she tld us wat happened 2 her mum.RAPE no matter wen it happen it affect psychologically nd if care nt taken U̶̲̥̅̊ pass it 2 ur kids.Foluke speakin  is d first healin stage,God bless nd heal U̶̲̥̅̊ totally.

Anonymous said...

I need to knw the year she talking about bcos I knw her finish

Anonymous said...

Exactly!

Chidozie Mario said...

"He had his way with you", how's that rape? I think you may have seduced him.
Between Abstinence and Chastity

Kilode said...

Best comment so far in this topic! Bye

Anonymous said...

The guy that raped her must've been desperate...
I feel sorry for rape victims. The trauma is unimaginable.

CREAMY said...

Some people think with their anus, and Linda you really don't have to post some stupid comments made by idiots who hide under being anonymous.

Anonymous said...

Gbam!!!!!

Anonymous said...

all na wash

Anonymous said...

see lie....plated in gold...chio......

Anonymous said...

The accused may not be available to defend himself. The case might not be that of rape after all.

Anonymous said...

Yay! There's no need for shame!

Anonymous said...

Na wao some girls judge other girls of snatching married men,but they do it. Which girl now a days don't have sugar daddy. So pls try & comment on what is written & stop saying rubbish. U know ur self.

Anonymous said...

You are a big fool if you said she shouldn't say it and such will surely visit you

Anonymous said...

There are so many fools and animals on your blog Linda. Imagine what some bastards are saying about rape! These are the people that make young girls not report

Anonymous said...

all you fool here that have raped girls, you will never succeed in anything you do. You will never find peace in life.

Jayden O said...

Linda pls this is a very sensitive issue and not for people without sence to discuss. Pls kindly remove those comments earlier made by thoes mugus. Thank u

Anonymous said...

Gbam

Anonymous said...

Wo! God bless you

Anonymous said...

mehn d way she even said it,guess she really wish it would appen again.nonsenc

Anonymous said...

For anyone who thinks she should keep quiet or thinks she deserved, pray it doesn't happen to your daughter. We'll see what you have to say then

Anonymous said...

It is well o,wen u ve not experienced something don't say u ve. Rape is not a funny thing. Funke I'm happy u spoke out.

Anonymous said...

GOOD LORD NIGERIA!!! IAM SO ANGRY AT SOME OF THE COMMENTS HERE AND THAT ITS COMING FOR GIRLS/WOMEN? GOSH! HOW WON'T PEOPLE CONTINUE TO HAVE THEIR WAY AND WHY WONT VICTIMS KEEP HIDING? SO PATHETIC. I COMMEND YOUR COURAGE FOLUKE, THIS MAY WELL GIVE YOU A COMPLETE CLOSURE

Myne Whitman said...

For those blaming this lady, or thinking she should keep quiet, please have a rethink.

http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2013/01/lets-talk-to-men-who-rape-shall-we.html

Anonymous said...

Honestly I always marvel at people's comment on dis blog, if u don have any good thing to say, must u write any comment. She is making a lot of sense, girls are easy prey especially if you are big for ur age to those sick so call neighbourhood uncles, I had similar experiences just that I was very wise cos I had a lot of big aunties then. so u should all shut up and pray such thing should never happen to ur kids.

Mrs said...

Too many ignorant people on here!!!
I was never raped, but I was 6-7 when my uncle's best friends-2 brothers (they were all about 21 yrs), who was always over visiting my uncle, would have me touch his penis (I remember it 2x), and once put it in my mouth (I reember this 1x).
Did I know what was going on? NO
Did anyone know what was happening to me? NO

Was my mother wrong for leaving us in the care of my uncle? NO

Was my uncle naive to not think his best friend could easily do that? YES

Have I ever told anyone about it? NO

Does it affect me today? NO thats because I prob blocked it all subconsciously, so I barely remember it, but I remember the 3 scenes listed above.

Will it affect how I raise my own kids? YES

All it took was a few mins, when no one was around, it looking. Thats all it takes.

I have had friends disvirgined through rape! Getting pregnant as a result of it! ITS NO JOKE!!!! A friend not only got pregnant, but eventually had a still birth! Is she scarred till today even in her mid 30s? YES!

Please lets chill with the ignorance in Nigeria. If you have nothing constructive to say, then please its better to be quiet and get educated!

Anonymous said...

it is a pity pls tak heart funke

Anonymous said...

Anon 12:53 you are stupid small. Rape is rape 20yr ago or today. What she said show an insight to what happen with rape cases in 9ja. It is your stupid mentality that allows a girl who is date raped to continue to day the criminal who raped her.

Anonymous said...

It's equally as sad even if the victim was not a virgin. There is no "especially" in the rape situation. The trauma is that someone had the audacity to take over another's body without consent.

stranger said...

Rape is 1 of d worst tins dat can apen 2 a woman thr4 dose of u tokin abt aw she wrecked anoda's womans home, shud shut it. Home wrecking is terrible, but dat is not d topic 4 discussion.
As 4 dose saying, "tis in d past" I take it dat u are very ignorant n it cud b dat ur bro, father or ur selves ar rapist n wudnt want ur victims 2 bring it up so u can go on raping innocent pple.
As a guy, I knw dat any man who descends as low as raping anoda isn't fit 2 live amongst humans. Thr4 d penalty shud b death or better still 4 dose who biliv in #otumokpo; impotence, madness or evn a curse dat such a person's wife, children-children (as in daughters) n whr d person has a son, he b raped by an homosexual 4 good measure. Tis only then dat a wud b rapist wud tink twice b4 raping anoda. Coz it seems d life imprisonment tin no dey fear rapists becos dey knw d victims or d victims family won't want 2 b exposed. Am advocating dat if u can't contest it in court cos of ur identity, do it d native way or both.

zsa zsa said...

The type of comments i read on this blog sometimes...i can't help but just take a deep breadth and move to the next. Why would anyone especially a woman trivialize something so horrendous as rape?
Isn't this the fundamental problem with our society? some people are asking "why are you telling us", "must you talk about it now". We would prefer if everybody kept quiet and pretend nothing ever happened and then we complain when our leaders are indifferent to the plight of the masses. Because we have the culture of keeping quiet we continue to suffer nd our leaders expect us to "deal with it".
My dear, i don't know you but you are so brave for speaking out and may have just helped someone else speak out. Talking about it is therapeutic, maybe now she can start to heal. Bless you dear.

Anonymous said...

@ NaijaHazard, well said...

Olu said...

In as much as i sympathize with this woman for being a victim of child molestation, she also was responsible for what happened to her. IN FACT, SHE CAUSED WHAT HAPPENED TO HER. You may disagree with me for as long as you want. That will never change anything and girls like her will be abused in future if they don't stop being naive.
So, this should serve as a lesson and people should learn from this. If you are mother, please learn from this. If you are a girl growing up, please learn from this. If you don't, you are putting yourself or your precious child at risk to be raped, abused or molested ; which ever await you or her/him for your carelessness.
If you don't want to be a victim of rape or molestation, don't create condition that will make you a target for rape or molestation. It is as simple as that. YOU CAN BE NAIVE AND DO AS YOU WANT AND THE END RESULT WILL BE UNPALATABLE FOR YOU.
IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE SCRATCHED BY A CAT, WHY ARE YOU PLAYING WITH A CAT. I WILL BET WITH MY LAST DOLLAR, THIS WOMAN WANTED TO BE SCRATCHED and she was scratched by a very big and massive cat.
In her own words, this woman wrote that she was very 'close' to a male tenant when she was growing up. What does she mean by 'close'?
'Close' as in playing hide and seek game with a 'grown ass male tenant', sleeping on the tenant's bed, having a shower butt-naked with the tenant, watching tv all night alone with the tenant in his room, going to watch movies with the tenant, sneaking out to talk and hold the tenant's hand during harmattan period or what? some girls/women amazes me. It is as if their brain is in between their legs. You don't need a college degree to know that you don't play with mud if you don't want to be soiled with mud. This woman had no business getting very close to a 'grown ass male tenant' while she was growing up with big butt and big boobs. What was she thinking? Maybe she thought the tenant does not have feelings or what. Ladies when it comes to sex, some men cant just control it. What was the poor tenant supposed to do- JUST LOOK, WATCH AND HAVE ERECTIONS ALL DAYS AND NIGHTS. . Oh maybe our little growing girl thought the tenant has erectile dysfunction or something. If she needed a friend, she could have befriended a girl like her self of similar age. Why didn't she do that? Why pick somebody who is fully charged with testosterone to be close with. Me, i have no pity for her but i do sympathize with her. By the way you lay your bed , you will lie on it. If u want, continue to be naive and disregard all telltale signs of future molestation at your own risk.
Olu

miss aluu said...

Ok..sorry..but is why u stole someone's husband?

S̶̲̥̅̊W̶̲̥̅̊E̶̲̥̅̊E̶̲̥̅̊T̶̲̥̅̊S̶̲̥̅̊ H̶̲̥̅̊O̶̲̥̅̊N̶̲̥̅̊E̶̲̥̅̊Y̶̲̥̅̊ S̶̲̥̅̊U̶̲̥̅̊G̶̲̥̅̊A̶̲̥̅̊R̶̲̥̅̊ said...

Why are S̲̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴͡ full ☀̤̣̈̇F negativity? U̶̲̥̅̊'r S̲̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴͡ full ☀̤̣̈̇F bitterness Ãήϑ hatred! Datz ♓☺W U̶̲̥̅̊ called Segun Arinze Ά̲̣̥ ugly duckling!

U̶̲̥̅̊'r beginning †̥ wear T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ ugly cap ☀̤̣̈̇F hatred Ãήϑ bitterness Billy Jean Ȋ̊§ wearing!

May Gôd̶̲̥̅̊ deliver ЧЯ lost soul! *smh*

Anonymous said...

Sori dear,v had two rape cases,d last was so bad dt I olmost committed suicide..tot d owrld had come2an end 4mi bt thank God 4hs timely intervention.
I knw what it fils like2go thru such,cos v bib in it..
Kip being strong my dear.
D evil men do live wv dm ol deir life!

Binta said...

Honestly some pple are jst soooo stupid αnd wicked, it's bcos of pple like U thαt rapist get away wit dia acts. I am a victim αnd tank God ma parent undastood d gravity of ωαt d guy did, he ωαs arrested αnd ma dad paid d police 2 deal wit him αnd ofcourse he ωαs really dealt wit 4 two gud daz. thαt ωαs 11yrs ago.

Anonymous said...

Dis LIBers sha... Some of u r so shallow minded. To u, evrybdy is an attention seeker. Na waa oh!

horluwatosyne said...

Der must b a stop......

horluwatosyne said...

Ur head correct jare......

horluwatosyne said...

Moju ko fi gba igi......ode oshi, e no go concern u bcos u not get blood for ur vein.....mumu

horluwatosyne said...

If nah lie pray it hapus to u or any of ur relative.......idiaat

Jumyk said...

‎​‎​​Ĝ∞∂ † speak out On rape case(s). Parents, be more careful with Ђȍw ‎♈☺ΰr female kids mingle with opp sex

Anonymous said...

Its good that shes revealing it for us to learn. Most guys don't know that when you have sex with an underaged girl even with her consent is RAPE. I guess that is the message she is trying to send.

horluwatosyne said...

It nt a must u comment......didirin

horluwatosyne said...

Ur head correct jare......

horluwatosyne said...

Der must b a stop......

Anonymous said...

Lol...Libers u guys can be so insensitive sha..

Anonymous said...

Speaking out against this crime is a very brave thing to do. there are thousands out there that have been raped but have not said a word at the end of the day each to their own and everywoman/man decides how best to heal. Dont judge this lady, she has made it against all odds and speaking out to shame the devil and let others who may have walked in her shoes know it is not the end of the world.
i dont know her but she has my respect. Dont judge her...

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 3.33 and 3.45, I reaally wish I could say same fate will befall a relative of yours! Its better you keep quiet honestly, no wonder many women die with the shame.

omototun said...

Adebayo Omotayo...God punish you not only for that statement...but also for all the girls that you have raped!!!.....may your ugly oily face rot in hell!!! Oloriburuku rapist oshi!
If you lived in the developed world I would have sent your perverted ass's name to the police to check up on you....but either way, karma is a bitch....may you get what you deserve!
ERANKO lasan lasan ekeji aja

Anonymous said...

See this ugly fool! You are obviously a rapist....even a mad girl would never sleep with you by choice, you look like a demon. You will suffer for encouraging rape, ugly, disgusting, smelly bastard!

Anonymous said...

You're a fool and you sound completely ignorant for that statement

Anonymous said...

You're also one of the fools I was talking about on this blog

Anonymous said...

Fool number 3. you didn't have to comment

cicy said...

Will u shutup and start thinking with ur brain, dats if u have one. He goat!

cicy said...

Will u shut up! Old fool from a cursed lineage!

cicy said...

Get a life moron!

cicy said...

Pls shut up stinking mouth, annoying beast!

cicy said...

Ur miserable life na wash! Ode oshi!

cicy said...

Get a life, useless animal!

cicy said...

Will u just zip dat pit latrine of a mouth?
Bloody rapist!

cicy said...

Thank you and God bless you.

cicy said...

You are very foolish and a bitter rapist!
Why haven't u gone to a public swimming pool and raped a girl cos she's wearing bikini? Cos its wrong!
It doesn't matter what u wear, who u're with, a rapist like u will always find a way to perpetrate dat disgusting act.

Why haven't u raped prostitutes on the road even with their seductive dresses n all??? Cos u know u'll be beaten to a pulp.
All u do is calm down and look for a naïve and harmless little girls to rape, then u come out here to speak trash!
No one deserves to be raped!

May u know no peace in ur miserable life!

Anonymous said...

@Adebayo Omotayo: How did you get access to a computer let alone the internet. You vile, evil man!!! How dare you utter such words that she enjoyed it. I am pretty sure you have raped someone before. You even have the audacity of posting your picture. I pray that God touches you and cleanses that evilness in you!!!! Linda post this comment pls.

Anonymous said...

Hmnn... Adebayo Omotayo! You asking the victim what she had on. Have you not read research studies that rape is less about what a woman puts on but the need for the rapists to feel a sense of control and power. Maybe if you didnt live in isolation, cos from your picture you look like you crawled out from a deserted bush. you will be more familiar with this issue and have some empathy for your fellow human being. Weren't you born by a woman? Show some respect for womanhood. It also doesn't hurt to use the right tenses and spellings in your sentences. Idiot!

BLOGLORD said...

you guy are terrible! what the hell happened to give the victim a voice!. why telling her to shush!? tommorrow another will be a victim and be so afraid to talk about it. please, i understand this lady has been in the news for snatching someone's dude or something but that's not enough to tell her to keep shut on this matter.

Anonymous said...

I can bet ma life say dis guy be rapist. Olodo oshi

Anonymous said...

Werey and mumu plenty for this here sha

Anonymous said...

I can bet ma life say dis guy be rapist. Olodo oshi

Anonymous said...

i exprienced something similar to dat.i was six years old and i used to go to skul alone cos my mum's shop was very close to my school.there's this guy who used toblocked my way,put a knife on my throat and asked me to fondle his prick.told me he'l kill me if i tell but i eventually told my mom who arranged some men to beat d hell out of him and it was d last time i went to school by my self.and also wen a guy wanted to rape me years later(in my early 20's)i got so violent dat we almost killed each other.when he saw dat he got afraid and left me alone.to the glory of God i married as a virgin but those memories still disturbs me.

Anonymous said...

Guy, take a chill pill. Foluke came here (on dis very blog herself) with her supposed husband and confirmed dat she actually snatched d guy from d unfortunate former wife, so dont b quick 2 judge on dis one.

Anonymous said...

Most rape victims are the architect of their problem. He who does not want the "lizard visit" should not bring home ant infested woods. U patrol round the block wit pants called "bun shorts" all in the name of freedom of dressing and tomorrow u claim u are a rape victim. Infact the truth must be said "wetin hungry pregnant woman also hungry the person wey give am belle "

Adebari Olanrewaju said...

Cheap publicity

Anonymous said...

I 'm 29yrs now but I remember what happened when I was 5yrs,my mum use to leave my 2sisters and 1 in care of my lesson teacher who was in his 30s,one day I went to the toilet and he secretly followed me in asking my to lick his P,he later inserted his finger inside my V.he did this like 3times before my grown-up neighbour were asked to stay with us .thank God he didn't rape me but I was confused and to scared to tell my mum cos I believed she was going to kill me.
Parent pls be careful who you keep your child with.

Anonymous said...

Well said!!

Jayden O said...

This comment is for Olu. I will advise u shutup ur mouth. I pray that non of ur sisters or daughters gets raped. Any woman who was raped or molested never asked for it. Abi you. Urself have been raping gals? I honestly suspect it. Infact u have no right to comment on a topic like this and as far as am concered u are talking rubbish. And did she tell u dat she was sleeping on the same bed as well as bathing with the guy? You morron!! Pls tink before u write rubbish. Iliterate like u

Cindy said...

You are very silly, my uncle almost raped me wen I was in SS1 and I was living in my parents house,he came to visit and wanted to have his way cos I was the only one home but thk God I escaped. Rapists are evil either you are close to dem or not. So now ask me why I didn't get close to my female uncles, Odee oshi

Anonymous said...

Ok I can see you are wearing contact lenses! You fit close ya eyes now. Daluh

Solomon said...

Enough on this babe's matter abeg. Its obvious she is liked by few and hated by many. Linda stop approving comments on this topic. Let it die a natural death. Gbam

Anonymous said...

@omototun.Dont mind the guy, see rubbish wey d guy dey talk, let them rape his sister or daughter.

Anonymous said...

thumbs up! I love the courage!

Anonymous said...

Omo no mind am she enjoy d whole thing.

Anonymous said...

Must evri1 comment? Pls LIB readers if u know u don't av any reasonable thing 2 say it is beta u don't type nonsense....what is bad in her sharing her experience? This is a thing that has kept on increasing,it happened to a friend of mine and I can feel her pain. Saying it out is a way of warning young girls to beware. Thank God 4 ur life Foluke

That Girl said...

Linda for a story like this it'd be sensible for you to censor comments. You can't have every retard running his mouth here. Sensitive issues should be treated as such.

That Girl said...

Adebayo Omotayo and Olu and other retarded sons of rabid bitches who are chatting shit here: If not that I know the God I serve doesn't do evil, I will pray for you, your daughters and sons, and your stupid mothers and fathers who left you to be raised by the streets to be raped by sick bastards like you who will burst all the orifices in your stupid bodies. Bastards. Fools. Idiots. mtscheeww

Anonymous said...

@ Ade, God bless you. Linda pls I beg u in God's name, issues like Rape is very serious and should only be discussed by reasonable people, it is not evry comment u should post. There are thousands of females out there dealing with same situation how do u expect them to speak up when discouraging and depressing comments are being posted and read here? Think about it.....Meggy!

Anonymous said...

@Darren, well said! Said the same thing, which till now am yet to see my comment. Hope Linda takes to this advice....Meggy!

Anonymous said...

@Adebayo omotayo, may devil make ur home his dwelling place for making such a comment! Oloriburuku!!!

NAUGHTY CONFESSIONS OF NUBIAN KID said...

wow wow,look at the amount of terrible experiences readers o here have had.
i am interested in us starting something to sensitise people about this i am even willing to commit to it financially of all the people who have shared their story pls if interested drop me a mail on

africannubian000@gmail.com if i dont get any email or interest then i ll assume no one is interested

Anonymous said...

Hmmm! Does anyone remember this prose
If a child lives with.....
The contempt and criticism lines describes the childhood of those who libs who have no sympathy for rape victim. No female ever asks to be a victim.

fay said...

lots of ignorant people on LIB, shaming the victim is typical african mentality. not my cup of tea

fay said...

you ignorant nitwit, everyone has a right to do as they wish with their bodies, especially females. why the hell should the women learn? why cant we teach misogynistic men like you that the world is not your playground? why should we hide our girls all for the sake of the raging testosterone that weak men cant control? every woman should experience the freedom to dress or act as they please without beast-like men raping them and then afterwards blaming them. its this kind of african mentality that makes me run far away from african men when it comes to dating.

fay said...

defend himself from what? the gravitating force drawing his penis immensely to her vagina, asshole?

fay said...

cant even speak proper English.... u don't deserve to be here child, leave discussions like this to grown ups.

Anonymous said...

I got raped in my year 1 in the university. I was phycologically tormented for several years until I got married last year n I told my husband what happened 2 me abt 12years back.I told him about the incident even b4 our marriage,but I wish I didn't! Since our marriage,I've neva known a moment of peace with my husband who thinks I didn't resist the bastard who actually beat me up before having his way with me enough!I don't know wen my own torture will end,but I wish I did speak out then wen it happened 2 me..

funmi said...

You are a big fool, may your children be raped.then you will understand how it feels. Mumu

Anonymous said...

You talk like this imagine your adolescent daughter or sister being raped , please always preview ur comment say no to rape

Anonymous said...

Are u a learner idiot just pray u won't have a baby girl

Anonymous said...

Do u know what it means to lose ur virginity to rape just go and hide ur face or better still beg
Linda to help delete ur comment SMH

Anonymous said...

Pls what does Foluke want from this old secret of hers.she shouldn't have shared it with the world,it's quit meaningless and uncalled for
.

Anonymous said...

sad and i hope she goes to police

Anonymous said...

Whatever sex you , I pray you get done and you will never reason like this ever again.

Anonymous said...

Mennnn some fools ar on dis site...God help our country nigeria and also help we youths..

MY TURN said...

so sad she is very courageous...God will punish the beast

queeneth said...

ignorance will kill u.....how will they get punished if nobody speaks out and the culture of shame is done away with?

saying it out is the solution...it not only pushes this deadly social vice to the fore of societal discourse, it helps other too!!

Dee said...

AND WHY IS SHE TALKING ABOUT IT NOW?????????????????????????????

queeneth said...

beast...someone will have his way with your child ......remember to tel her that she seduced him.......senseless moron

queeneth said...

another anonymous rapist....smh

Anonymous said...

Fay, u are wrong . You don't have the right to do as you want with your body when you are in public. That is called indecent exposure. When u are in your bedroom you can do what ever you want with your body. Dressing up to seduce men will most probably get u raped and the police in places like NY discourage it. If u like listen , if u like don't listen and then u will come later on to tell us tales like the lady we are discussing here. Rape is not good and it is better prevented. Don't make it easy for somebody to rape u but most of don't listen and u always end up being raped by freaks

Angel said...

The first poster, Olu and a host of other people blaming the girl for talking. You guys are absolute idiots!!!
I am sure you are the ones likely to rape girls for saying such rubbish. May it happen to you as well. Fucking retards!!

mrolajyde@gmail.com said...

We must stop telling victims of rape to be quiet.Speaking out is one of the ways victims alleviate their feelings of guilt and shame.We who havnt been raped have no right to tell victims to be quiet.
Ive met countless women who were raped or molested and i now realise that rape continues to destroy and affect lives years after.
Rape victims need to be able to talk,who are we to deny them ?
Lets not make joke of something that has and continues to cause unimaginable suffering to a huge number of victims.
Lets show them an open forum where they can ease their pain.
I close mouth..

mrolajyde@gmail.com said...

We must stop telling victims of rape to be quiet.Speaking out is one of the ways victims alleviate their feelings of guilt and shame.We who havnt been raped have no right to tell victims to be quiet.
Ive met countless women who were raped or molested and i now realise that rape continues to destroy and affect lives years after.
Rape victims need to be able to talk,who are we to deny them ?
Lets not make joke of something that has and continues to cause unimaginable suffering to a huge number of victims.
Lets show them an open forum where they can ease their pain.
I close mouth..

Anonymous said...

Don't you understand that having your way means forcing yourself on a situation despite what others think?

Anonymous said...

coming out straight is a good thing

Anonymous said...

rape is terrible

Anonymous said...

u guys should all be reasonable